10 Uplifting Tips to Help you Learn How to Love Yourself First

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Are you struggling with loving yourself every day? Well, don’t look further because here are 10 amazing and uplifting tips to help you learn how to love yourself starting today. And of course, included below is a free 30-day love yourself challenge to guide you to make yourself a top priority every day.

How to love yourself?

To be honest, there is no one simple way to solve the how to love yourself question. It all takes hard work and a constant reminder that you are the bomb.

Loving yourself means doing everything you can to feel good about who you are both inwards and outwards.

As a matter of fact, life loses a lot of meaning when you are not happy with who you are physically, mentally, and emotionally. And we don’t really want that to happen.

And that’s why you need to practice self-love every day to become your most confident version of yourself.

The Benefits of loving yourself

For real I don’t know if I can convince you enough, but there is a ton of benefits of learning to love yourself unconditionally. Such as:

Greater life happiness and satisfaction.
Increase motivation to be nothing but the best of who you can be.
Boosts confidence and high self esteem.
Become resilient and deal better with stressful situations.
Develop a healthier lifestyle.

So, no matter how much struggle with self-love, this is your chance to face the problem head-on and combat low self-esteem. Here are 10 amazing tips to learn how to love yourself and make yourself a top priority.

10 Tips to Learn How to Love Yourself First

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1. Unlearn false beliefs about yourself

The first and most important step to learn how to love yourself is to unlearn false beliefs that have been ingrained in you by other people or society in general.

There are a ton of things that you have been told since you were born that have shaped who you are now. Some were good and others were completely negative and unnecessary.

So, dive deep down your heart and write down everything that you have been told your entire life that has always made you feel lesser, incompetent, or unattractive. And then go ahead and work on unlearning each one of them.

I know this could be a trigger, but it is a necessary step for your journey to loving yourself and being confident.

For example, here are 3 ways to unlearn false beliefs about yourself:

Finding inspiration from amazing people who look like you on social media.
Practicing daily affirmations.
Going to therapy.

Psst! Let me know in the comments other ways.

2. Invest in yourself

I am sure this is not surprising, but loving yourself also means investing in yourself. Not being the bearer of bad news but if you seriously don’t invest in yourself first, then who will?

And yes, investing in yourself is not just about money. Like, don’t go into debt to buy yourself a designer purse, haha! For a second I actually thought about it, LOL!

But, no matter how big or small are the things you do for yourself, it helps you appreciate and learn how to love yourself more.

For example, here are some ways to invest in yourself:

Resting and allowing yourself some down time.
Getting your hair and nails done every month.
Treating yourself out to eat or going on trips.
Working out and eating healthier.
Reading self-love books.
Buying yourself flowers every month.

Basically, investing in yourself means doing what you can to take care of your mind, body, spirit, and pockets.

3. Create boundaries and put yourself first

In order for you to learn how to love yourself, you must create boundaries in your life. And of course, that is not being selfish. Get that thought off your mind, please I beg you.

This is because there is a big difference between being selfish, and putting yourself first for your own mental health and sanity.

So, to love yourself you have to be present with yourself and ditch everything that strains and gives you more pressure in life.

To do so, you have to set your standards, learn to say no, and don’t worry about other people’s opinions of you.

4. Surround yourself with positive people

We have all heard the saying “I can tell who you are, by the people you hang out with and blah blah blah…” I’m probably butchering it, but you know what I mean.

To some extent, this statement is very true. In order to love yourself more, you have to surround yourself with positive people who don’t look down upon you or themselves.

And if you haven’t noticed, some people who don’t like themselves, love to complain, be mean, spread negative energy, and put other people down, so that they can feel better about themselves.

So, save yourself by letting go of toxic people and hang out with people who:

Treat you with kindness and respect.
Hype you up.
Wish you the best.

Also, remember to spread the love you wish to receive. (Empowered women, empower women)

5. Be your authentic self

Let me tell you the truth, you shine the brightest when you are your most authentic self. TRUST ME!

So, for you to love yourself more, you have to learn to be real and honest with who you are first. Whether in public or in your comfort zone, just shine the way you are.

Here is how to be authentic and love yourself:

Create your own authentic life that you are proud of.
Embrace all your imperfections.
Stop comparing yourself to others.
Know, own and use your strengths.
Take every opportuinty that life presents your way.

Basically, be who you are. The world can take or leave it.

6. Celebrate your wins and hype yourself up

Another way of learning how to love yourself is to make sure to celebrate your wins and hype yourself up. Like I really do mean that you have to get out there and do the freaking most.

No matter what a celebration looks like for you, loving yourself means appreciating every little achievement.

You can take yourself out, ride a chopper for your birthday, give yourself a gratitude speech in front of the mirror, write a post on social media, do a photoshoot, buy yourself a cupcake, etc.

Just don’t be embarrassed to celebrate your win in the name of “humbling yourself”. Many a time, people will encourage you to hide your awesomeness. But, I believe it is awesome to recognize God’s blessings and love over you.

So get out there and be your number one cheerleader.

7. Learn to be bold and confident

As a matter of fact, I know that being bold and confident is easier said than done. Trust me!

Personally, I have to constantly remind myself every day to walk with my head up high, do a power pose in the mirror before an interview, socialize with a group of strangers at a function, etc.

To be honest, all of that is just scary and out of my natural element. Raise your hand if that’s you too, haha!

But, in order to learn how to love yourself more, you have to practice being bold and confident with your body, mind, presentation, and decision making.

So, here is how you can practice being bold and confident:

Know your worth.
See the beauty within yourself.
Embrace your imperfections.
Dress up in clothes that make you feel like you can take over the world.
Stand up for yourself.
Trust your intuition.

All in all, process your fears and just “face it till you make it.” And slowly by slowly you will be comfortable bold and confident and love yourself even more.

8. Be kind to yourself

All in all, being kind to yourself is the most important tip to loving yourself. I know that sometimes it’s natural to host a pity party and tell yourself all the negative things you can think about. Happens to me all the time, LOL!

However, you need to be self-aware to fight that urge because that’s simply not healthy and can lead you on a bad road.

So, to be kind to yourself try:

Speaking highly of yourself.
Practicing self gratitude.
Allowing yourself to make mistakes, embracing your failures, and learning to forgive yourself.
Asking for help when in desparation.

All in all, loving yourself means being self-compassionate and treating yourself with high standards.

9. Get rid of toxic traits

Let’s face it, loving yourself means doing what’s best for your body, mind, and spirit. And that means getting rid of the big T in our lives. Yeah right, I know we don’t like mentioning it, but to love yourself fully, you have to get rid of any toxic traits you may have.

Perhaps, it could be being disorganized, dependent, always late, smoking, cursing, anger issues, Instagram addiction, etc. You name it!

Hey, please know that I am not here to judge at all. We all honestly have that one toxic trait that affects how we live and view ourselves.

So, because you know yourself in and out, just be honest and take full responsibility for yourself. Loving yourself is caring for yourself.

10. Learn to have fun

Last but definitely not least, to love yourself, you gotta learn how to have fun. Not just fun, but A LOT OF FUN. Honestly, life is too short to take everything seriously all the time. Don’t be too hard on yourself.

So, everything you do, make sure you are at least having fun somehow in life.

It could perhaps be starting a hobby, pursuing your passion, girls’ night in, allowing yourself to be creative, traveling, being adventurous, watching your fave show, making a candle, etc.

And you really don’t have to be an extrovert to have fun. Fun is what you make it to be. So you do you.

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Last Thoughts about how to love yourself

In conclusion, I hope that these 10 amazing self-love tips have helped you learn how to love yourself and uplift your spirit. Don’t forget to grab the free 30-day love yourself challenge.

Also, let me know in the comments one thing that you are going to do starting today, to love yourself more.

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