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Don’t like being all on your own? Are you wondering how to be absolutely happy by yourself? Here are 11 easy tips on how to be happy being alone, be independent, & most of all, love it!
What I have learned in this life is that happiness comes from deep within yourself. As much as we may want to blame other people for our inadequacies, I believe that we should NEVER wait for anybody to make us happy. Other people’s love is just extra. So stop focusing on other people and dance to your happy music.
Therefore, if you are wondering how to be happy on your own, then it’s all about continuously controlling your mindset, environment, and relationships to place yourself in the best position in life.
11 Tips How to be Happy by Yourself & Love it!
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1. Never give up on trying to be happy
Driving and maintaining peace, happiness, and positivity in our lives is the most wanted kind of energy everyone seeks. But why do we struggle with it so much? Well, we all know that the world has its ups and downs. I want to put it out there that I am highly aware that life is not always happy and rosy. And I 100% agree and acknowledge that it is highly unrealistic to be positive throughout life. It is what it is, haha!
But do you know what you can do to be happy on your own? Just try to do your darn best with the cards dealt in life. Despite the regular stresses we all encounter in life, never give up trying to do everything you can to be happy with yourself. Such as:
- Tackle stress head-on
- Practice gratitude journaling
- Doing a social media detox (30-day social media detox challenge planner here)
And many more.
2. Be Your authentic self to be happy
The best thing you can ever do to be happy is to allow yourself to be authentically YOU! So, you have to accept and love yourself the way you are while seeking continuous growth towards becoming the best version of yourself that you envision.
Even though you may feel that you are not “perfect” according to the FAKE “societal standards,” I believe that God created you wonderfully and beautifully. And, there is a reason why God chose you to be the way you are. You have a purpose and mission to fulfill to make the world whole. Therefore, you will feel an imbalance when you try to be someone else.
Remember, you will be happy when you own who you are, chase after your purpose, and live an authentic lifestyle. Lastly, be okay with “imperfectly” putting yourself out there. As long as you are happy yourself, the world can take it or leave it.
3. Find a community with similar drive to be happy
Finding people around you who have a similar drive is so important. In this case, you will be able to bounce ideas to help each other grow and figure out life over coffee dates or zoom calls. Life is hard as is, let alone doing life by yourself, just because your immediate family and friends don’t understand you.
So, invest your time building solid, genuine, and mutual relationships outside your normal friendships and family group. For instance, if you want to build a fitness page, find other creatives/gym enthusiasts around your area and on online platforms. Mostly this is because it is difficult to fit in with ordinary people who may look down upon your creative hustle just because they don’t understand how it works. And you never want to subject yourself to being undermined. However, you will get a lot of happiness and support having a community of fitness content creators that you could specifically bounce ideas, get support, ask questions and do life.
4. Mind your own business
This point is such a big one that could get me in trouble. But hold your horses, hear me out. Happiness is a two-way street. In most cases, you always get back what you give. So, try not to involve yourself in messes that don’t concern you. So, to be happy yourself, try not to be in situations revolving around gossip, envy, and rumors.
In most cases, everyone is trying to live their lives the best they can, so do you. The last thing we all need is judgment. I am not holier than thou. Yes, I find myself in situations where I talk about people because it’s human nature. But it’s a matter of making it brief. You will find yourself being happier and having inner peace of mind when you know you haven’t wronged someone. So, mind your own business.
5. Replace comparison with inspiration
It’s super easy for us human beings to fall into the feeling of personal inadequacy. Our first instinct is to always start comparing our lives to our friends, neighbors, and families. We also continuously torture ourselves with the thoughts of scarcity, which leaves us sad and jealous of what others have worked hard to earn.
In this case, to be happy on your own, you should understand that there is a piece of the pie for everyone. Just because someone already has what you want, it does not mean that you can’t have it as well. Also, just because someone started something before you, it doesn’t mean that you can’t as well. You have to work hard for it. Instead of comparing, use that time to ask questions, find inspiration and learn how they made it.
On the contrary, if you still find that you’re feeling down because of someone else’s success on social media, go ahead and mute or unfollow them. Only follow people who are inspiring you. It’s super normal to be jealous. Go ahead and do anything that will give you peace of mind and happiness.
6. Create boundaries
It is essential to create personal and work boundaries for your mental health purposes. To be happy in life, you have to prioritize certain relationships over others to make sure you are present with the people who deserve you most, including yourself. In addition, you only have 24 hours a day so, how are you using it? Who is getting your energy? Do they deserve it? Genuinely ask yourself these questions.
7. Clearly know who has your back (Appropriate Expectations)
No, this is not permission to be in your feelings, haha! However, it is about matching expectations to reality. A lot of relationships have failed or have tension due to miscommunication and over-expectations. Therefore, for you to be happy in life, you have to clearly know who to approach for what situation.
Therefore, try to categorize your relationships into three sections:
- Best friends/ Best family Category (Can call at any time for anything, they got your back, they mostly know what’s always going on with you).
- Acquaintances Category (You meet with them once in a while for good times only, and that is OKAY, there is no deep relationship).
- A stranger you just met (You don’t know where this relationship is going yet).
To depend on people and expect them to be there for you every season of your life, you have to know the mutuality of your relationships. Mostly this is because the last thing you want to do is stress and catch feelings towards the “wrong people” for not supporting you. Therefore, you will be a lot happier and comfortable being by yourself, when you are aware of the role and purpose of every relationship.
8. Find time to do what you love to be happy
It is important to love or find purpose in what you do. Most of the time, people get depressed because they are not pursuing something that gives them fulfillment in life. For example, if you have a career you love but feel drained, find the time to pursue your passions or go for a vacation every now and then to recover.
On the contrary, if you have an unfulfilling career you HATE, you have to take the necessary steps to come out of it. Mostly this is because life is too short to be crying every day at a job you hate. I am not saying that you should quit your job immediately, but find ways to change your situation slowly but surely. For example, it could be going back to school, starting a new venture, moving, or finding another career path. In summary, you will be happy in life when you love what you do at your everyday job.
9. Hype yourself up to be happy
Aaaaayee!!! If you don’t hype yourself up, then who will? But guess what! I’ll be out here hyping you on your behalf because that’s my job. Anyway on a serious note, for you to be happy in life, you must learn to love all aspects of yourself. If you’re grown it is time to let go of low self-esteem by learning to be comfortable in your skin, voice, body, and presentation. So, take the time to work on yourself to grow into a confident woman.
One self-confidence tip I’ve had to learn is to walk into a room, restaurant, mall, and event with my head high. Yes, even if my introverted side feels like slouching and hiding under the table. Especially if people are looking, I always think to myself, “Yaasss honey!!! give them something to look at.”
You don’t have to necessarily announce yourself by being the loudest in the room, but just by your presence, posture, etiquette, and confidence.
10. Get A Pet
If you’re feeling a little bit lonely being alone, having a pet is one of the best ways to be happy when you are by yourself. As a dog lover myself, I highly recommend getting a one because they will be your number one cheerleader even on your loneliest days. Generally, this is not because they are the most adorable little thing, but because they literally get excited about everything.
When you’re at your lowest point, a dog will always snuggle beside you. When you get home after a long, tough day at work, a dog will run to you like you’re the only thing that matters in the world. Talk about feeling safe at home, a dog will scare any intruders on your doorstep. In addition, when nobody wants to hang out with you, guess who’s readily available to go for a happy walk?
Despite pet responsibilities, which sucks, by the way, I can talk about a million advantages of owning one. Absolutely yes, a dog or any pet you love, will keep you company, help you be independent, keep you safe when you are alone, and most of all, they will never get tired of making you happy every day.
11. Be Present With God
I saved the best for last. For all religious people, you have to be in constant communication with God, for He is always in control. Whether you feel it or not, God always has your back. Cry out to Him, seek peace, happiness, wisdom, and guidance.
“Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.”Philippians 4:6-7
Last thoughts on how to be happy yourself
I hope you found inspiration on how to be happy yourself and love it. Lastly, if you have read this far, it is not by coincidence. I strongly believe we have been brought together for a reason. Therefore, if these self-improvement tips resonate with you, feel free to leave a comment. Aaaand! Let’s be friends because I can’t wait to chat with you more.